Everything in life is a gift – it is up to us to unwrap it and how we use it in our lives.

We all know what betrayal feels like but what is it really? The word comes from an old French verb that means to hand over or deliver up. The dictionary defines it as treachery, the disappointment of ones hopes and expectations, or to reveal, disclose, show, or exhibit. When we feel betrayed the emotions it evokes are so primal, they seem to go to the very core of our being. Once we learn to view betrayal differently that emotion can become a gateway toward greater intimacy and a deeper connection to ourselves.

When I look at betrayal, I can focus my attention on what I perceive as treachery or look at my own expectations. Whenever I have an expectation I am setting myself up to be disappointed, especially if my expectations are not clear to myself or to the people around me. I must clearly negotiate and define my expectations. I must also check to see if they are realistic or not.

Many of us have had the unrealistic expectation that people will treat us differently than they do others. They might lie to everyone else but they will tell us the truth. They will cheat on their former lover but they will be faithful to us. They will gossip about other people but they will keep our secrets. When they don’t treat us differently we feel betrayed. People are consistent unless they are actively working on changing a behavior.

I have found that if I base my happiness on another person I eventually feel let down or betrayed. Ultimately I am the only person responsible for my happiness. If I expect my friends, lovers, or the world as a whole to ‘make me’ happy I doom myself to a life filled with disappointments. If on the other hand I realize I am in charge of my happiness I can be happy regardless of the events in my life. Focusing on the feeling of betrayal prevents me from looking at the role my beliefs and expectations play in the creation of my happiness.

If I turn my attention from what happened and to what I can change – myself and my reactions – life can become one magical experience after another. Even the most profound betrayal can be an opportunity for me to deepen my connection with myself. I can understand my expectations, see how they affect my choices, and choose anew. As I look within I learn to listen to my inner voice, to trust myself, and to clearly understand all of my expectations.

Betrayal can be my greatest guide; it will lead me to my expectations every time. And if I’m willing to change my expectations I can be happy no matter what is going on in my life.

With love,
Susan

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For many years I went round and round in circles trying to figure out my life’s purpose. Why was I here? What was I supposed to be doing with my life? How could I make the world a better place to live? Wonderful pursuits as long as I wanted to stay stuck in the realm of personal importance, but if I really want to achieve personal freedom not questions that will help set me free.

It took a while, but I finally realized the quality of my life often depends upon the quality of the questions I asked myself. If I want to connect with the essence of who I am and break free of my self-imposed limitations questions like: What do I want to create? What do I love doing? How can see I see the perfection of what is? In this moment, what other options can I see? How can I see this through the eyes of love?

When I ask myself those sorts of questions I have an opportunity to see the illusion I used to call life. Anything I can do to assist me in ‘seeing’ my filter system and making choices beyond that limited perspective will help me experience my limitless nature.

What questions can you ask yourself that will help you see beyond your limiting perspective? What can you do today that will take you beyond your comfort zone?

With love,
Susan

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Personal freedom, a life of ease and happiness become part of our life when live from a place of balance and harmony. Our filter system constantly ‘pulls us’ off balance. When we are thinking about life instead of being in the moment we can’t find that place of inner balance and harmony. Trying to create harmony or anything else for that matter is useless. Trying to do something is very different from actually doing it. As the great master Yoda once said, “There is no try, there is to do or not do.”

Finding actions that generate a feeling of balance within and then doing them on a regular basis is a major step toward personal freedom. We are body, mind and spirit so if we are to find balance and harmony we must engage all three.

For many years I have had what I call bookends. Something I do every evening and every morning to create a deep connection and enhance the balance and harmony in my life. For a time I had gotten busy and stopped doing my morning exercise routine. When I did it again for the first time I immediately felt my mind, my body and my spirit go ahhhhh.

If I take time to listen to my inner knowing I find activities that facilitate that balance. If I then turn those activities over to my mind they can become a meaningless ritual. Each morning I write, meditate and do my very modified ‘yoga’ routine. It works for me. At night before I go to bed I again write, review my day and clear any energy stuck there and then read my Mahalo card – a place I list all the things I have to be grateful for.

What role does balance and harmony play in your daily routine?

With love,
Susan

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We are totally responsible for our experience of reality. Whatever is in our life is there because we invited it. Whatever isn’t in our life isn’t there because we don’t want it there. Those statements seem to fly in the face of our experience. I want peace, but the neighbors are so noisy. I want more money, but I just lost my job because of downsizing. I want freedom, but . . .

One of the many gifts physical reality has to offer is the ability to clearly show us what we have been requesting energetically. There is it is, whatever it is in three-dimensional physical reality.

If we want peace of mind and continue to worry about things then what we really want to experience is worry. We make our choices moment-by-moment, thought-by-thought. We can’t change tomorrow because tomorrow never gets here. By the time it gets here it is today.

Your thoughts generate energy, your emotions are created by your thoughts, and your emotions often drive your actions. Life reflects our habitual thoughts and actions.

Most of our requests are made unconsciously. We send out the constant energy of fear and fear comes back to us. If on the other hand we begin to focus on love and abundance that comes back to us as well.

What do you want to create? Once you decide, make sure you focus all of you thoughts on already having it. And when something shows up that you’d rather not keep, observe how your thinking invited it and change those thoughts.

With love,
Susan

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