Trusting the Process

The other day I was thinking about the phrase trust the process. I realized the more I get out of my own way the more magical my life becomes. But where does the magic come from and what does it mean to get out of my own way?

All of my limitations originate in my filter system. What really gets in the way are my beliefs, agreements and assumptions. Magic is the essence of who and what I am.

When I first began my journey the idea of surrendering and letting go terrified me. Trusting the process seemed like pure folly. Now I know surrender is the gateway to my personal freedom and trusting the process is the only thing that makes sense.

For a long time I avoided my fear. I actually fooled myself into believing I was fearless when fear was the basis of all my choices. Once I realized how many permutations fear had I embraced it and chose to consciously move toward it. I found that time and time again freedom existed just on the other side of my fear. Eventually I realized my greatest power lies in my complete vulnerability and in my absolute surrender.

Moment by moment, thought by thought I’m either deepening my connection with my filter system or my spirit. And when I sincerely ask myself, “What do I want to create?” the likelihood of deepening my connection with my spirit is greatly enhanced.

I recently had a listener to my podcast ask me about controlled folly. I hadn’t thought about controlled folly in a number of years. When we are profoundly asleep to who and what we really are the only thing we can do is react to life. When we wake up to who and what we really are we realize one of the ways we can choose to be in life is called controlled folly. Once we realize we’re a spirit and not our body we realize life is just a game. What we create or don’t create doesn’t really matter.

Having a physical body is a wonderful gift. What we do with our life doesn’t really have a profound meaning it is just what we choose to do with our life. I like both chocolate and vanilla. I can choose to be happy or choose to be sad. I can choose to act from a place of love or fear, not because it’s the right thing to do, but because it feels better. As I awaken to my true nature to question, “what do I want to create” takes on new meaning.

There are no shoulds or have tos there is just what I wanted to. What do you want to do with your life? What choices make your heart sing? What would happen to the quality of your life if you chose moment by moment to create that which brings you joy? Controlled folly is to think that any of it matters to anyone other than you.

At first I had resistance to the idea, but now I see the freedom in it. When I’m connected to my spirit my choices benefit myself and others. Not because it matters but because another word for Spirit is love, pure, unconditional, unfettered, limitless love.

With lots of love and aloha,
Susan

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Episode 19 of Food for the Soul is live!!!

Aloha everyone,

In this podcast I answer listeners questions about controlled folly, denial and affirmations as well as anger and resentment. Then I discuss the difference between choosing how we want to act rather than reacting to life. There is also a wonderful guided meditation about acting and reacting. I hope you enjoy listening as much as I enjoy sharing!

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With lots of love and aloha,
Susan

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Bookends

How do you normally start your day? And how do you end your day? What is the first thought you have each morning? What do you think about as you’re falling asleep?

Those times of transition between being asleep and awake are very important, our mind is most suggestible and we can really utilize those times in a powerful way. I always suggest people create what I call bookends for the day. Bookends arr something you do every morning and every night. Bookends will help you create what you want, feel how you want to feel and vastly improve the quality of your life.

The covers of a book protect its pages and in a sense your daily bookends enfold your life and can protect you from the old, familiar habits of negative thinking. If you wake up worrying about the day, feeling stressed about all the things you need to do or go to sleep feeling angry it not only affects your dreams, but it affects the next day as well. You do create your reality, or at least your experience of reality with your thoughts, beliefs, agreements and assumptions.

We have bookends already we just aren’t conscious of what they really are. Today you’ll think 95% of the same thoughts as you did yesterday and you make many of the same choices and take the same actions. So why not spend a few minutes and consciously create bookends that will really facilitate creating what you want and feeling good about yourself?

I’m a great believer in meditation and journaling. So each morning I spend some time meditating and journaling. I live on the gorgeous island of Hawaii so part of my morning bookend is to spend some time connecting with nature. Your morning bookend can be as simple as taking the time to take a long, slow deep breath. One of my favorite authors Thich Nan Hahn suggests you put a sign over your bed that says smile. What a wonderful way to start the day by taking a moment to smile deeply with your spirit as you awaken.

Take time to be conscious of your first thought and your last thought. Choose them carefully. If you want to make brownies it helps to have the proper ingredients. If you add a lot of salt instead of sugar you might not like the brownies. If you want happy, joyous life add happiness and joy first thing in the morning and last thing at night.

For my evening bookend I usually take a warm bath, write for a few minutes in my journal and before I fall asleep I review my day in reverse and let go of any unfinished business. Then I give thanks for the opportunity of having another day and surrounded by the energy of gratitude fall sleep.

I find it helps to ask myself, “What do I want to create today?” Once I answer that question I can create my bookends accordingly. So, what are a few things you could do for yourself every morning and every night? Make sure they’re small and manageable so you can easily do them and then take the time to do them every morning and every night. Having a wonderful day is definitely worth the effort.

With love and aloha,
Susan.

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What if . . .

I have a desk calendar called We’Moon that is has little sayings and spiritual stories. Each morning I take a moment to focus on the coming day and write down my intent for that day. It is usually something simple like ‘enjoy the day’ or ‘love – just love.’ I find it a great way to start my day. The other morning there was a poem that triggered some thoughts.

I’ve said this before, but this time I had a different image of what it meant. What if we viewed everything in life as an invitation from the universe? What if we saw everything as a personal invitation from the universe to remember our divinity? What if we viewed everything as an invitation to remember our perfection and to acknowledge to the world and ourselves that we are the creative force in our life? And of course we can accept the invitation or ignore it and immerse ourselves more fully in our illusion about life.

When I got a very clear image of how this might look in my life I laughed. How perfect! I could see my life as a series of invitations. First, the events in my life would gently ask me, “Are you done with that limiting belief yet?” The invitation might show up in the form of some minor event that reflected the result of holding onto that belief. My response is always based on my choices. At first my response would be, “Belief, what belief that’s just the way life is.” Then fast forward a few days, weeks or years and once again my belief rears its head in my life and the invitation is again sent. Once I become willing to see how my belief or assumption or agreements limits my experience of reality – poof my life changes to reflect my new and hopefully more expansive belief. Of course life can also reflect my new narrower and more limited vision of life too.

I really liked to idea that ‘god’ was sending me ongoing invitations to experience happiness, freedom and joy or if I wanted to hold onto my beliefs I could gift myself with any kind of limitation I wanted to experience. The sky was the limit either way.

So, if I choose to see life that way then each day the question becomes, “What do I want to do with my day? Do I want to argue for my limitations or see events in my life as an opportunity to set myself free?” Viewed that perspective everything in life becomes an incredible gift and an opportunity for me to create whatever I want whenever I want it. It is anyway, its just if I see it that way I can give up struggle, suffering and feeling like a victim. I can embrace what is and fully savor it. What a freeing thought! And I am also free to old onto my beliefs and experience the results they produce in my life as well.

So what are you going to do with life’s invitations today?

With love, aloha and a big smile,
Susan

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Love or fear

Flower from my meditation circle
Sometimes I am amazed at all the permutations our filter system is capable of creating. Ultimately there are only two options are love or fear but our filter system sure can dress fear up so it looks like love.

The other day I was writing a magazine article and mentioned the question: Do you want to be right or do you want to be happy? Lately I’ve started getting up around 3AM and meditating. Yesterday morning the stars were shinning brightly and the moon had just risen. I started thinking about that question. A few minutes later the heavens opened up and it started pouring. I have a tin roof and vaulted ceilings so when it rains hard it gets very loud.

The rain started me thinking about the Mitote of the mind as it is referred to in the Toltec tradition. The Mitote refers to all the voices of the market place that distract us from who and what we really are, that symphony of voices that constantly speak to us and obliterates the quiet voice of our spirit. Our filter system fuels the Mitote of our mind and it is a collection of beliefs, agreements and assumptions about life. Often, we have a great deal of energy invested in maintaining our limited worldview. We would rather be right about our old beliefs than happy.

If you want to change the results you are getting in your life you have to make different choices. When I am looking at life through my filter system often times the very choices that would create the results I want aren’t even slightly visible. It helps when I remember my filter system limits my options. It isn’t that my mind or filter system is bad or wrong it is just limited. My mind is an incredible bio-computer and if I ask it questions that are expansive I will see opportunities to make new choices.

The subliminal dialog often goes something like this: “I want that. I couldn’t possible have that, it would take too much work or it would be too hard and besides I don’t deserve it and I am not good enough and . . .” A long time ago I realized consciously choosing to change the dialog was empowering and very freeing.

So now if I want something I immediately ask myself, “What sort of actions would facilitate me creating that? What old beliefs would stop me from creating it and how can I change them to make having it easy? What information or skills do I need? What can I do right now to begin inviting it into my life?”

Noticing my inner dialog and asking myself questions that engage my mind in a creative and expansive manner certainly improves the quality of my life. Instead of saying I can’t, I ask myself questions that illicit how I ‘can do’ this. I have found most of my ‘can’t’ statements are fear based and giving myself permission to have is generally based in love. The more unconditionally I love myself the less likely I am to deprive myself of my dreams. Love or fear, which do I choose?

How can you create the life of your dreams? What are your dreams and are you willing to allow yourself to manifest them?

With lots of aloha, love and passing fears,
Susan

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